BMJ

Life is all
about choices.  The choices, in turn, are all about
paying the price of certain decisions. This
‘price’ could be monetary in terms of payment, or non-monetary in terms of pain, pathos, agony, etc. that one needs to experience. Some other time, this price emanates from our
hidden priorities that nourish our negative emotions too.  These hidden prices are anger, fear, greed,
insecurities, attachment, and ego.  The
choices are important and thus, the process of decision-making is also very
important.   While making routine choices, it is important to ask
oneself: what am I choosing? over what, and at what price?

The choices are never made in a vacuum. All
choices are over something.  It is
important to identify and value that ‘something’ that one chooses to forego.  This value of ‘something’ is the price one is going to
pay for one’s choices. Therefore, it is very important to ask, ‘is it worth making a choice at the price of losing or not
acquiring something else?

Many a time,
peace of mind is not only about what one achieves, acquires, or experiences.  It is also about what one lets go.  In most materialistic transactions, we let
money go to buy something – i.e. goods or services.  This price is easy to understand as money and
goods/services are more or less tangible i.e. they can be felt/experienced.  You pay money and you receive some goods or services or experices.  In many other transactions, which actually make a big
part of our lives, money is not involved.  Although money is not exchanged, such decisions still involves a price. It involves
transactions of thoughts, emotions, and deeds.  These choices involve our faculties like body,
mind, and heart.  Therefore, such choices
are important. 

In making these
choices, one needs to be careful in accepting or rejecting something over
something else.  We will say yes to something and no to
something else.   At times, this ‘no’ is
very important.  We have to negate it
strongly and say, ‘Bhad me Jaye - BMJ’ (Go hell with).  

Choose wisely.  Welcome only those things and sentiments that give long-lasting joy,
peace and long term benefits. And,
reject something that nourishes our ego for a while but proves to be very
costly in the long run. Choose to say
Bhad me Jao to these things.  Reject them
vehemently and accept positives passionately. 

BMJ is an
important choice to make.  Say BMJ to
things that make you unhappy now or later. Say BMJ to things that satiate our
negatives.  Do not say BMJ to people and
relationships. Say BMJ to things that come in our way to good relationships.
Say, BMJ to ego and insecurities to save relationships and welcome people.